Friday, January 20, 2012

Need to get this off my chest

We watched the Golden Globes at my sister's house. I love me some Angelina (here's my letter to her) but if one more person raves about her dress or how great she looked, I am going to scream at them. Or maybe junk punch them.


LOOK AT THOSE SKELETON ARMS. That is a person who is not eating. I've been very open here talking about how I used to have anorexia, and those arms? She is sick, people. I literally wanted to puke when she presented her award because you could see the bones inside her elbow.

But she was not the only offender of the night. Modern Family is one of my favorite shows but seriously, someone needs to get Julie Bowen some help. She is literally wasting away in front of our eyes, skinnier every week.


And do not get me started on the plastic surgery. So many faces were jacked up this year. Michelle Pfeiffer. Madonna. Even Helen Mirren appeared to have a facelift since the last awards shows.

What really really really makes me angry is how we, as a culture, worship this. Is this what we want for our daughters? Is this what we want to consider normal?

I sure as hell DO NOT want my sons to think the above photos are attractive. I want them to look at those photos and worry. I want them to see those women and get them help. I want them to think that women can age gracefully without having to go under the knife. I want them to think that HEALTHY is beautiful.

Who's with me?

24 comments:

Eva said...

Thanks Laura. It's so important for people to speak out about things like this! And I especially needed it after looking at my many chins in the mirror this morning and feeling very unattractive about it and wondering what could be "done."

JenFen said...

Agree 100%

Wiley said...

Her neck actually makes me more nervous for her...

Maria said...

Dude, I completely agree and would be more than willing some of my extra to them...

Seriously though, they look like lollipops-giant heads way too big for their emaciated bodies-and they are role models?! Gross.

Beth said...

I didn't watch the Globes, but I completely agree. Especially with raising girls, I'm quite worried about making sure they feel good about themselves. We talk a lot about eating good food and exercising so that their bodies are healthy and strong and capable. I try not to worry about my own weight or appearance in front of them. I can only hope that my husband and I can help them feel good about themselves before they start seeing these images and hearing those messages. Thank you for being so open.

Oh, didn't have to comment before, but LOVED the ninja fashion show photos.

Joanna said...

I agree 100%. Our culture drives women to unhealthy extremes. It comes at very high costs in health, finances, and happiness.

This is something that has been on my mind a lot recently, and it's behind my decision to not color my hair, to not buy women's magazines that plaster airbrushed women on their covers, and most of all to try and look in the mirror and like myself for who I am.

It's a huge problem, but I'm going to do my part to help out.

Goddess in Progress said...

Amen. I spent half the show shouting at the screen, "somebody get that girl a sammich!" It's downright alarming. God bless the strong, funny women who seem to be on the rise, and may Tina Fey and Amy Poehler never starve themselves.

Amanda said...

Thank you for addressing what many of us feel. I have struggled with my weight since my 20s and do not want my son or future son/daughter to have unrealistic expectations on what beauty is.

AmyY said...

Yes to that! Great rant.

Becky @ Our Sweet Peas said...

Didn't watch but completely agree.

Jared teaches Juniors and Seniors and says all of the girls complain about how "fat" they are. He says it is really sad. A large number of them tan year round also and he says their skin looks horrible. It makes us sad that we have defined beauty so poorly in our culture.

I hope to teach the boys and Addie how false this is and that they were "WONDERFULLY MADE".

Anandi said...

Ugh, I'm so with you. That looks WRONG. I hate it, too. Not only does she look unhealthily thin, she looks so pale (and I'm not just saying that bc I'm brown). She looks unhealthy pale. Yikes.

This is totally something I'm going to talk about with BabyT, early and often.

Janna said...

Yep Yep! Laura Case is RIGHT ON!

Tanika Davis said...

SOOO with you! I watch Modern Family and I love it, but you're right, I have been really unnerved by how skinny she's gotten. It's not even cute! That's the thing that really gets me! Besides all the great points you made about messages we're sending to our girls (and boys) and the health-factor, etc., I just do not get WHO on Earth thinks that extreme of boniness is sexy? It looks painful, if you ask me! Ugh. Give me a brick house over pencil-thin any day! As they say in the black community, "Don't nobody want a bone but a dog." Hello!

Cacey said...

Wow, I can't believe you posted this today, of all days. I have a tendency, usually not on purpose to not eat/get sick really easily when I'm stressed. Already this year I've seen my weight go down more than I'm comfortable with. And today all I could think about was how sad I felt and how much I did not want to eat. And then I thought if YOU knew I was thinking that way you would probably punch me, or roundhouse kick me. So I went and ate. So yeah...

Alicia @Life With Ladies said...

Oh the concept of beauty...such a disgusting debate. From my extremely limited experience, I already think it's so hard to raise girls. Especially with things like this. Just...so sad. So very sad.

ann said...

What I saw was her collar bone about to punch out of her skin. I was not impressed with how she looked. I definitely find my image of myself distorted by what I see in the media.

Stacey said...

I heard on the radio this morning that she's 3 months pregnant. Could that possibly be true? If so, I'm even more worried.

Anandi said...

On the side of things we can do in our own families to combat this, I remember an article I read by a famous Black actor. I wish I could remember who it was, but he said his mother had photos all over the house of beautiful Black women. All different shapes and sizes, all kinds of hairstyles, but very REAL women. Family photos, and also clippings from magazines, etc.

His mother was very clear that she wanted him to recognize what beautiful was, and that's why she filled her house with those images. It apparently made a huge impact on him.

I thought that was cool.

Jill said...

Amen, sista! The skeletor look is not attractive.

Anonymous said...

I so agree.

I have (twin) boys too and I have to say that for that reason alone I am glad to not be raising girls. I would be in a constant state of worry about them over this issue.

Very scary.

Carrie

cara said...

Oh girl. If I were to get started on this subject, I would have to start my own blog!!!

Somewhat related, I vowed to not indulge body bashing about 5 years ago. I am sick of women (of all sizes) putting their bodies down and spending too much precious time telling me (or anyone) what they ate or if/when they last worked out.

In very, very short: THANK YOU for this post!!!

Anonymous said...

As a mom that struggled with anorexia for years and finally sought intensive treatment last year, it makes me sick to my stomach to look at Angelina. Beyond disgust.

Deanna said...

Mr. & Mrs. Smith was on TV last night and I was practically jumping up and down hissing at my husband (because the 4 year old was *finally* asleep), "Look at her! She looked good then! She had some weight. She looked h.e.a.l.t.h.y." He totally agreed - he didn't realize how much weight she's lost. He's always been one to tell me to "eat a sammich" - he likes curves and I've learned to be a lot less critical of my body.

Concrete Girl said...

PREACH IT. This is SUCH a great post.