Last night one of the boys had a complete meltdown when I said they were taking a shower instead of a bath. He was so out of control that I put him in his room and told him he could come out when he was done crying. He was sobbing a little when he went to the shower, and then continued to cry and sob and fight over every little thing through the shower.
I put him to bed early with no story and he just could not stop crying. I put the other boy to bed and then I heard boy #1 cry, "No one likes me! Everyone makes fun of me. I don't have any friends! "
I rushed in to his room and asked him to talk to me. He said everyone makes fun of him all the time, people say they hate him, and no one likes him. A truly heartbreaking moment.
I asked him for more specifics. He said, "Well xxx always punches me in the face." I said, "They punched you in the face a long time ago, did they punch you again?" He said, "No, he is nice now. He used to be mean." Then he said, "Well yyy said they hate me." I said, "Did they say it today?" He said, "No they said it a long time ago."
As we talked through every single example of his hurt feelings, he realized all those things happened a long time ago and that almost everyone is nice to him now. I told him sometimes kids say mean things but if they play with you and are nice to you most of the time, they are your friend. He was calm and happy when I left, but I can't help but wonder how many more times we will have to have similar conversations.
Advice/similar stories welcome because this is new territory for us!