I've finally been reading Nurtureshock and I would highly recommend this book to every parent. It looks at current research to debunk some of the common parenting misconceptions. The book is divided into nine chapters, each covering a different research topic. Some of the information has blown me away, such as the chapter that explains why watching educational tv makes kids meaner than if they watch violent tv shows.
Yes, you read that last sentence correctly.
The biggest lesson I take from the book is from the chapter on siblings. It is no secret that Nate and Alex do their fair share of fighting. The book explains it is possible to teach siblings to get along better. With Jon out of town, I tried this with the boys last night. While I made dinner, I set them up with a game and asked them to play it together and not fight. It worked. It was CRAZY.
The only chapter I do not agree with is the chapter on language development. They argue language development is a nurture thing, and parents can do more to improve language skills. To me, they completely ignored the nature component of language development. Having twins both raised in the same environment in the same manner and seeing them develop spoken language at such a vastly different rates, I think this research ignores the child's personality type. Alex = introvert, Nate = extrovert and nowhere is this personality trait addressed in the book. While Alex and Nate have always had the same language comprehension level, Alex simply doesn't talk as much and never has.
That said, I give this book 5 stars and would encourage every parent to read this book. Simply amazing information!