Friday, December 07, 2007

Why yes, I am a good mom

The phone rang yesterday morning and the caller ID said UNC Hospital. I panicked thinking they were calling to say they made a mistake and we owe them $3000 for Alex's helmet. I picked up the phone to find it was a research study on parenting so I agreed to participate. Usually I don't do this but karma told me I must be kind to UNC forever for fixing Alex's head for free.

They proceeded to ask me a ton of questions about parenting and how I interact with Nate as he's considered the youngest. I aced all the "positive" questions - in the last month, how many times have I read a book, hugged him, kissed him, told him I loved him... all 20+ times! I aced all of the negative questions (I won't list them as some of them were upsetting) except one.

Caller: "How would you rate the difficulty of the last year parenting Nate? Extremely Easy, Easy, Moderate, Hard, Extremely Hard?"

Laura: "Can I qualify this answer? Can I put a little star next to it? Extremely hard. But I am a first-time mom to twins. Can you write that on my form?"

Caller: Laughs and sound of typing in background. "Yes, I will note it was twins. Too bad there is not an extra category for that."

The questions made me think about what a good mom I really am. Instead of focusing on the things I don't get done, it made me think about how much love and time I give to Nate and Alex. Then when I was sorting November's pictures, I saw these and remembered I am also a pretty cool mom. Do you think it was Jon's idea to let the boys play with packing peanuts? As Alex would say, NO WAY!


Megan said...

So nice to get validation of yourself as a mom in whatever form it comes! And yes, to try to quantify the number of kisses and hugs given? I'm sure you aced! I worry sometimes we don't "do" enough with our daughter because we don't have a lot money for classes,etc. But, as you also pointed out in beautiful pics, some of the things/activities that bring our children the most joy are the simpliest ones. Packing peanuts! Bubbles! Sounds like you continue to ace being a mom!

Lindsay said...

We played with packing peanuts last night! Such a fun time!

AmberP said...

Great mom... great pictures!!!! You are right - instead of focusing on the things that we don't/can't do we have to remember that we ARE good mom's!!! :)

Lori said...

You are the best mom ever! Those boys are really lucky!

bella said...

You are a good mom, and how wonderful to know this and claim this. Yes, it is hard and yes we can't always do everything we might want or think we "should". And still, you are a tremendous mom!

Shawn said...

I think it's so important for us mommies to look at the big picture and learn from our mistakes and focus on the great things we do. So ... good for you. You are an awesome Mom. Packing peanuts ... keep meaning to search for some. What fun!

Fuzzy balls from the craft store are awesome, too.